But in the last decade or so, the game of looking for love has gotten some new rules, with the venue moving from the bar world to the the cyber world.
Instead of men searching for the right verbal approach, many now search for the right photo to put on their profile page.
Creating your online dating profile: protect your identity and personal information Be Anonymous - Choose a username that doesn’t let everyone know who you are.
Don't include your surname or any other identifying information such as your place of work either in your profile or when you first make contact.
It was kinda easy to WOO and WOW women on the phone and they not only thought me safe, they felt an almost unique connection with me.
Now I mostly would talk to moms, because as a dad, I thought them safe. Just because they read a profile and a few correspondences or shared one cocktail at a bar, they felt they knew me and felt comfortable.
Because some women felt an instant chemistry and even a spiritual connection with me, as if they had known me all their life…“he’s different so he must be safe.” Well the good news is that I was and am safe and so are most guys.
Meeting and building quick rapport is so easy online and lately I’ve noticed that women all too often let their guard down, lose their common sense or abandon their self protection to a total stranger.
Reflecting back to when I was single and looking after my divorce, I’m shocked at how easily a woman WHO I DID NOT KNOW would invite me to her home (having never met me before) after a few chats via phone/email/text.
There is safety in numbers and meeting for the first time in a restaurant or coffee shop would provide enough witnesses should the date turn sour.
Never – and I mean never – meet a man at his home or even think of inviting him to your home until you really get to know him. Yes, tell a friend or family member the details about where you are meeting, give them his contact details like name and phone number and any other additional information you have about him.