At the end of the day, if either party wants something, they should just ask. This is a complicated question that warrants looking into the perspective of both guys and girls.
From a guy’s point of view, it would obviously be so much better if girls made the first move: we wouldn’t have to try as hard and we wouldn’t have to feel the pangs of rejection so often.
Speaking to Chinese girls, who are notorious for never making the first move, their rationale for never making the first move is this: they want a manly man who’s assertive, confidence and takes over control.
If this guy can’t even take the initiative to make the first move, then he’s not a manly man…in fact, he’s more like a weenie man.
It will take him by surprise and show him how confident in yourself you are.
The first date is really awkward because nobody really knows if you’re going to go Dutch on the bill or if the guy is going to pay.
If you asked him out, who is telling you that you can’t pay for dinner?
Don’t mistaken this for a lack of standards…I don’t say yes to everyone.
However, I am more likely to date someone who pursues me first. Should women be more proactive when it comes to dating? Mike: There are still expectations on guys to do most of the work, but right at the beginning, theres no particular reason why a girl couldn’t initiate something.