Now I’d like to share with you a very common conversation I have. It is safe to say that I have interacted with a lot of everyday Filipinos and Filipinas. While looking at the vegetables a few of the vendors said in Bisaya… Again I have nothing wrong with why individuals think that way, because again, yes lots of foreigners who are here do have girlfriends, or wives.
Here is a very common first interaction (which I would have in either Bisaya or Tagalog): Why? We all know that a lot of foreigners come to the Philippines because they have met a Filipina, have a Filipina Girlfriend, or have a Filipina Wife. But it occurs EVERY time I am hanging out with a girl who is simply just a friend of mine, and usually in a very open and vocal way; the girls will be stereotyped as being attached to me.
A lot of foreigners come to find a Filipina to love and care for them. we know a lot of foreigners come to take advantage of Filipina girls (that hurts me to, it is sick and I dream of the day that changes). In some cases people will be so vocal about it, that it can be uncomfortable.
I understand that it would be common to assume that I would be here due to a Filipina. I will always take time to respond to people who make those comments in a positive way.
They believe that is the biggest reason why I should want to be here. I explain the amazing things that make me want to be here and parts of this culture that inspire me so much.
That it would be the number one reason why a foreigner would ever want to call the Philippines home. I guess it is part of the reason why I get scared to date a Filipina.
In fact, because of Philippine customs and traditions, they are shy and conservative.
Afterwards, they were to drink the water that was mixed with their blood.
The priest proclaimed that they are officially wed after their necks and hands were bound by a cord or, sometimes, once their long hairs had been entwined together.
There is this complete sense of disbelief when I tell them otherwise. I talk about the amazing little inspiring traits I see in Filipino hearts. I get scared that I will lose that chance to challenge Filipinos to see the other things in their culture that are beautiful.
In some cases people will even start laughing in the sense they really don’t believe it. I talk about the beautiful mountains, rivers, and beaches. The absolutely beautiful culture I continue to learn from. To challenge them to focus on those first and foremost. For all I know I could fall in love with a Danish girl in the Philippines, or a Swedish girl in Canada, or a Filipina in the Canada…