You may not have been out on a first date for many years.
The slightest emotional rejection could plunge you back into the depths of despair.
Some WAY members make the conscious decision that they will never date anyone else again, because they feel that nobody could ever live up to the partner they have lost.
Other WAY members feel ready to move on quite quickly – and are open to the possibility of finding love and a new partner. And only you will know when or if you feel ready to move on. Dating after you've been widowed can be fraught with perils, particularly in the early months of bereavement, when you may still be feeling very emotionally raw.
A post-mortem examination later classed the cause of death as Sudden Adult Death Syndrome - a fatal disturbance in the heart's rhythm, which can strike at any age, and which can affect even fit and healthy people. It was a dilemma, but in the end I decided to say yes, if only for a couple of hours away from being sad, in the company of someone who made me laugh.
I handled my twinges of guilt that it was too soon by reminding myself that Neil would not have wanted me to be alone.
Although some say you'll need a year that may be different if your spouse was sick for a long time before his death.
Your decision may also be based on whether or not you had a good marriage with your late spouse.
Sometimes people feel guilty about wanting company and physical love.But eventually, once we're ready, it's highly likely we'll consider the possibility of finding love again. In our own practice we have known men and women form new relationships well into their eighties.A 'new relationship' doesn’t necessarily mean marriage, since quite a lot of widowed people now opt for ‘living together’, just sleeping together or even just dating.Often they have all sorts of other unresolved emotions about the death of the partner, and the more they try to ignore them, the more they tend to surface. But they might be about anger that the person has gone, or about resentment that other people are still a couple and can look forward to an old age together.Sometimes feelings revolve round sad or even horrible images of the last days or weeks of a partner's life.