D., chair of Clark University’s psychology department and head of Clark’s Center for Couples & Family Research.
(MORE: Make Every Day Valentine’s Day) Taking Too Much for Granted “One of the things that happens in long-term marriages is that the demands of everyday life steal our attention away from our partners — and paying attention to the other is crucial for happy relationships,” Córdova says.
Most of us can remember the hot -- and frequent -- spicy moments when the romance was new with our partner.
But eventually the fire of a good love life may die down.
Mary Jo Fay, author of Please Dear, Not Tonight, says a lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens these problems.
But having sex is one of the last things you should give up, Fay says.
This lack of focus on your spouse slowly unravels the fabric of a solid relationship.
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Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial and error.
All relationship problems stem from poor communication, according to Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families.
"You can't communicate while you're checking your Black Berry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section," she says.
Problem-solving strategies: Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually.